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Visa Issues: The Continuing Saga of the Stolen Passport.

When my passport was stolen, I filled out a police report, went to the US embassy to apply for a new passport. The embassy was, of course, beautiful with benches to sit on while you waited and photographs of the Golden Gate Bridge and Yellowstone National Park hanging on the walls. The process was organized and efficient as they quickly entered my old passport number into the system. I had a new passport within 7 days. I was never so proud- or at least grateful- to be an American.

Then it was time to get my Visa replaced, since it had been in the stolen passport. I brought the new passport along with my full original visa application, police affidavit AND a copy of my old visa to Department of Home Affairs. I asked which queue to stand in, someone point, I wait there for 3 hours. I got to the desk and the woman took my things, entered the number of the visa and said, "We have no record of your visa. You need to apply for a new visa. Stand in that queue."

Knowing I could not handle anymore for the day, I left. I returned the following day to stand application queue. When I got to the front, I handed her the application. She looked at it while I start the conversation.

[Back and forth of a typical SA greeting omitted]
Me: My passport and the visa inside it was stolen. I have the police affidavit here. I just need a replacement visa put in my new passport.
Lady: where is the receipt from your deposit?
Me: what deposit?
Lady: You need to make a R7000 deposit ($1000) before we give you a visa.
Me: That can't be right. I've never made that deposit before when i got my visa.
Lady: well you have to.
Me: It just doesn't makes sense. I paid $70 to get the visa in the states.
Lady: well here you pay R7000.
Me: What? Why.
Lady: In case they need to deport you. You can make the deposit in that queue (she points.)
Me: No. I am not making a R7000 deposit. It doesn't make sense.
Lady: You get it back. from your Embassy.
Me: (certain if I made a deposit in SA DHA I would NEVER see it again.) It just doesn't make sense. I already HAVE a visa I just need a replacement copy of it for my new passport. Can't you call the consulate in Chicago, USA and just verify it?
Lady: No. We can't do that. We can't make calls from here.
Me: Ok. So there is no way to just get a replacement?
Lady: (looks at my stuff. looks at copy of my visa. looks at police report) Oh. You just need RE-ISSUING. Fill out this form.

See, I didn't know the word "Re-issuing" which is apparently the secret code word.

So I filled out form. She handed me a letterhead paper filled out with my name and birthday as proof-of-application and then tells me to come back in 30 working days to redeem my visa. I got an SMS the next day saying the DHA has received my visa application and gives me reference number and a number to call for inquiries. That was in November.

I returned to pick up my Visa in January, 45 working days after I submitted the application. I got there at opening hours so, luckily, I ddidn't have to wait long in line. The woman at the desks asked my surname and, with her finger, traced down a list of hundreds of names in a stapled packet of paper. The names were not in alphabetical order or in any other order. When she got to the last page, she took my proof of application, stamped it with a date stamp and said, "Its not ready yet." Since miraculously, no one is in line behind me, I continue my inquiry.

Me: Oh. OK. But it hasn't been declined?
Lady: No. It isn't ready.
Me: Would you know if it had been declined from that paper?
Lady: your name isn't on here.
Me: Alright. I have a reference number. Is there some way we can check its progress or see when it might be done?
Lady: No. Come back in 2 weeks.
Me: Yes. I will.

At this point, I laughed. Honestly, I shocked myself at my lack of frustration or homesickness. I'd honestly gone in expecting it not to be ready, though I'd waited past the day it was supposed to be done. My good humor most likely was aided by not having to wait in a long queue (a fortune I would never again know.) But overall, though annoyed, I was satisfied with myself for my reaction and felt like I was getting good at South Africa.

However...

4 weeks later (last week) I returned to DHA. It was 30 something degrees C outside and the heat inside was oppressive. We were about 100 people squeezed into a tiny room. It smelled like body odor and people were rubbing up against me. The White woman behind me asked me to hold her place in line for while she ran for air. When she snuck back in line and thanked me, we got looks of rage from the other people and heard a man mumble, "Acht! White People!" The woman in front of me was holding a child who pulled out mom's breast and started sucking away, a clear breech of cultural norms in SA (so don't try to pull that one on me.) Given the nature of the queue, she was likely foreign. Yes, the feminist-hippie in me says, "Its natural and beautiful." But the girl-in-a-hot-stuffy-room-waiting-in-a-queue-for-the-4th-time in me says, "Really?! Now I have exert the effort to not be awkward. I have no where to face but forward and now I figure out to avoid looking while not seeming like I'm trying not to look." The old man behind me was so close to me that anytime there was any movement in the queue, his crotch hit my leg. Part of the reason I stuck up for white lady while she squeezed back into her spot in the queue to intercept the old man junk's proximity. It was the longest 2.5 hours yet.

When I got to the front of the line, the lady checked her non-alphabetical order print out of hundreds of names again. "Not ready!" she said as she stamped my paper again and looked behind me, "Next!"

Now I was concerned and in a helpless voice I asked, "Um. Do you think we can find out if something is wrong? I filed this in November. Its been too long." A different lady took pity, grabs my paper and verifies the submission date. She makes the first lady look at the list of names again, which makes her scowl and snap, "SHE ISN'T ON THE LIST!" Luckily, lady #2 seemed to be on my side and said, "Give me your passport."

I hesitatingly handed it to her. (Rewind to my other SA government experience back in October. I'd gone to the Motor/Traffic Office 2 weeks after applying for a traffic registration number to pick it up as directed. They lost my queue number, so I never got called up. It wasn't until the office was closing that they listened to my pleas that my number had been skipped. They went then to look for the thing I was there to pick up. They asked for my passport and brought it to the back while they "worked on" my application since it had mistakenly not been processed. When someone else asked for my passport, I told them I'd already given it to the guy with the glasses and red shirt. When I saw through the glass him shrugging in response to this person's question, I knew there was a problem. They came back and said, "Did [this other lady] give it back to you?" I told them a stern yet anxious no. They spent the next hour and a half searching for the passport in the back. Funny part is, when the found it, I tucked it safely back in my wallet with a relief. Later that day, before I stopped at home to drop off my passport, I was mugged and my wallet was stolen. Brilliant. God love SA.) Back to DHA, a few moments later, she came back with my passport.

Lady: It isn't ready. Come back.

Me: Is there some way to tell if it is at least being processed? It has been too long.

Lady: We don't have the applications here. They go to a different office so we can't check. (She looks at my puppy dog eyes and generously grabs a pen) Here. (She writes a FAX number on the back of the sheet.) This is the fax number of the place where the applications go. You can fax this [proof of application] sheet. Just fax it to them. Just this paper.

I thank her and leave, though unsure of (1) how I am going to do with a fax number given that, well, I live in a dorm room and don't have a phone line, much less a fax machine; (2) what will happen when I do send a fax since generally faxes are kind of a one-way deliverance of information; and (3) what I should do in the meantime without a visa. I am sure the application has been lost. I've done everything I can. I have a copy of my old visa, a police affidavit that it was stolen, and proof of application and status checking a new one. That might be good enough to plead with if needed. Then again, I am technically on a tourist visa which is going to expire on April 6th which result in me getting fines for overstaying that Visa when I leave. I'd cross the border to Botswanna or Swaziland, but border hopping is frowned upon and they may give me problems (given my luck). The recommendation is to fly out at least 2 countries away for at least a week... an expensive and inconvenient trip just to return for 3 weeks. I am not sure what to do.

The worst part is trying to decipher what exactly this proof-of-application says about what I should do while I wait for my visa:

1. The onus rests with you to enquire (YES! THIS SPELLING!) about the outcome of the application on/after 30 working days.
2. Submit your passport together with the receipt to obtain endorsement.
3. If you have applied for permit to take up employment/study, you should note that he receipt is not a work/study permit. You must therefore await approval of your application before commencing any work/study activity.
4. Please note that if your application is not successful, you have to leave the Republic of South Africa on/before the date notified to you in writing my the Department. Should you fail to do so, you will be dealt with as a prohibited person in terms of Section 26 (7) of the said Act.
5. You are requested to await the outcome of your application before you leave the Republic of South Africa. On your return, please ensure that you are in possession of a valid work permit.

Aside from the fact that these instructions do not take into account the incompetency and inefficiency of SA in general, they also need a special clause:

6. If you are Andrea Dean, South Africa hates you. However, since you are spending American money here, we prefer that you stick around. Therefore, we are going to make your life fairly difficult and sad while giving you just enough hope to get through it. Therefore, we will leave you guessing about your Visa application in order to keep you confused and miserable, without just plain kicking you out. Good luck.

(By the way, I've since sent the fax with a big note on the top that says "PLEASE CALL ### REGARDING THIS APPLICATION." I, of course, have heard nothing.)

New Update: This morning I called the number provided and gave them my reference number. The woman told me my application is still at the place for which I applied for it, i.e. the Department of Home Affairs. "You must go there and ask for it."

Me: But the told me you had it in the main office and that I needed to contact you.

Lady: No. It shows it hasn't left the office of application.

Me: But I submitted it in November. Is it lost?

Lady: No. It is in the system. So it isn't lost. It is just still there. Go ask the immigrations officer.

Me: I was there last week. They looked for it. It wasn't there.

Lady: Just go back.

Me: Thank you for your help.

Frank Rich on "Don't Ask, Don't Tell."

Smoke the Bigots Out of the Closet

I must say, especially in terms of homophobia, nothing makes you appreciate the progressiveness of even the most backwards US citizens like living in South Africa. Could this really be the beginning of a new era? Please let me come home to a country with a little less hate and a little more wisdom.

A Breath of Mamelodi

For the last few weeks, I've been passing my days at Stanza Bopape Community Health Center's Antenatal Clinic (ANC) where I am trying to recruit participants for my study. Before I get into specifics about Stanza, I will describe the setting in which it functions.

Stanza is in a township of Pretoria called Mamelodi, Mamelodi East to be exact. This means, the clinic is about a 30 minute drive out of Pretoria proper, where I live. This drive is the most stressful part of my day due to: the herds of mini-bus taxi's who rule the road here (though not with any particular driving skills or courtesy,) the HUNDREDS of pedestrians lining the sidewalks and crossing the streets, the speed bumps every 100 meters or so (though the road is marked 70 km/hr), the beggers/sellers at the robots (traffic lights) knocking on the window and pushing me to buy bags of frozen juice, and unbearable heat in my non-air-conditioned car. However, the drive also allows me time to reflect and since during this I'm pulling away from my nice neighborhood in Pretoria, through the commercial center of Mamelodi, past the newer housing developments, and to the edge of the shanties of Mamelodi East where Stanza sits, the about of material on which to reflect is substantial.

While avoiding being presumptuous, I will guide your thoughts with the following anology: Mamelodi is to Pretoria as Soweto is to Johannesburg. Listen, Mamelodi is no Soweto but, then again, Pretoria is no Johannesburg either. So it works at least for those of you who are familiar with the establishment of Southwest Townships (SoWeTo) and the political history within them. Let me explain.

Mamelodi was established in 1953, just five years after the government of South Africa adopted Apartheid as official policy. (Clarification: Though racial segregation had been an colonial effort particularly since the arrival of the British in the early 1800s, the official policy of "Apartheid" did not begin until the 1948 election victory of the National Party.) Apartheid legislation ensued which would eventually include racial classification of all residents, deprivation of citizenship, forced removals, as well as a list of other progressively more horrific policies, and worse, ignoring of actions that went beyond policies.


Townships (like Mamelodi) were known as "group areas" and were places outside of urban centers (like Pretoria) designated strictly for Black residency. Townships, however, were founded as a solution to the Apartheid "problem" of having too many Black people in White areas, or at least areas where Whites wanted to be. However, these townships were a compromise of sorts and one which would ultimately prove to be a fatal to the Apartheid regime.

Actually, the government's ideal solution to this "problem" was much more extreme (yes. it is possible.) In accordance with the promises the National Party made during the election race, Apartheid dug its heals in the dirt almost immediately with the Bantu Authorities Act in 1951. This act aimed to set up "homelands" for the native population called "Bantustans." (I am still unclear as to whether this term was intentionally derogatory at the time or if it has become that as a result of the failure of these areas to prosper.) Basically, the goal was to move 100% of South African Blacks to these lands. In 1951, they depended entirely on the South African economy, but in 1959, the government stated they would be self-governing and independent. Those is positions of authority cited gracious and enlightened reasoning behind this structure, such as that it was the "Africans' land" and they should "rule" according to their "tradition and culture."

This rhetoric worked. To this day, I have had young South Africans tell me that the "idea" behind Apartheid really wasn't that bad: "'Apartheid' just means 'Separate,' Andrea. Look, they just wanted to set up separate places where Africans would live and whites would live. It made sense at the time, it just didn't work."

(This, um, 'fact' is usually given as an attempt to prove to me that America and the rest of the world's media has vastly misrepresented South African history and that as an American, I know nothing. I will take this opportunity to tell my South African readers that this conversation has happened at least 4 times since I've been here. It does deserve a place in the blog. Though I do agree with you that present day white consciousness in SA deserves its own entry, so I promise to discuss it further there.)

Though the rhetoric was as beautiful as it was when White America granted American Indians reservations, in reality, the Bantustan set-up was as ugly as it too. First of all, by deeming these Bantustans "sovereign nations" where Blacks were required to live based on their tribal identity, the government was able to strip Blacks of their South African citizenship and replacing it with that of the Bantustan. No other country recognized these nations' independence. Gracious and Enlightened? I don't think so. If you aren't yet convinced, how do you feel about total area of the Bantustans equated to 13% of the total country's land where 90% of the population was supposed to live? If I need to start discussing the quality of the land, let me know.

So millions of people were relocated to the poor, barren, rural Bantustans. However, even at their peak only about 50% of all native S Africans lived there. The rest persisted in the cities. As you can imagine, it was an impossible task to deport all those people! But more importantly, the cities depended on Black labor, Jo'burg is a mining town and, furthermore, what is the point of being a colonialist if you don't have cheap domestic labor? So they had a dilemma, a we-need-them-close-but-don't-want-too-close dilemma. And hence the urban townships were born.

Areas were designated for Black townships several miles outside of the city, preferably far enough away to forget about after the gardener left the house. Forced removals began. In Cape Town, District Six was vibrant neighborhood in the middle of the city which evacuated under the guise of a "plague outbreak" and its residents were dumped in Cape Flats, outside the city and out-of-sight. Officials also cited "housing regulations:" inspecting neighborhoods and saying that because of this-or-that, these houses were "unfit" for residence. These concerned officials closed the houses and shooed the occupants off to the designated group areas, where of course, generous officials overlooked the fact that these places were in squalor, making no move to correct it and letting the Blacks stay anyway. Mostly though, no justification was given because Apartheid was official policy. Within these townships, old neighbors were separated as areas were further segregated along tribal lines. (Answer: Greatest Success of Colonial Rule. Buzz! Answer: What is Divide and Conquer?)

Soweto is obviously the most famous of these townships. My Lonely Planet describes it as "...the biggest, most political, troubled and dynamic township" in the world. And it is probably true. If nothing else, Soweto provides an abbreviated journey through the much larger history of a much larger South Africa. While tourist certainly cheat themselves (not to mention South Africa) by getting their fill by taking a day-tour of Soweto before scooting off to Safari in Kruger, a single breath of Soweto air is full of more life and history than most places could dream of containing within their entirety.

The Soweto story remains core of and the symbol of the rise and fall of Apartheid. It begins, as described, with the relocation of Blacks from various parts and suburbs of Johannesburg to Soweto. As relocation intensified and immigrants moved to the city in search of work, poverty worsened while crowdedness increased. This lead to the emergence of its own culture and identity, followed by the inevitable policalisation of the township and its residents. From educated political leaders (like Nelson Mandela) to school children, resistance to apartheid and the fight for equality arose. With 1976 protests, came war (of sorts) and with war came global attention and eventually came the end of Apartheid and, well, peace.

Armed with even a minimal amount of knowledge of Apartheid and townships (above,) visiting a township like Soweto or Mamelodi is an experience that reaches beyond the present, beyond, even, your own existence. For example, just frustration I have as I start my 30 minute drive, reminds me that I am heading into a place intentionally distanced from White Pretoria. Then, I arrive at my destination: Stanza Bopope Community Health center, named for Johannes (Stanza) Bopape who was born and raised in the area in 1961 becoming a hero for the cause when he was tortured and murdered for his political activism by the Security Police. Everyday, something as simple as my trip to work carries me through the xenophobic motivations for Apartheid to the courage and unity it took to end it.

However, it is the life of Mamelodi, the ongoing activity and changing nature, that tell a story which can't be written in a history book. As I drive into Mamelodi, new low-cost, brick Reconstruction and Development houses line the streets yet East of the clinic, hundreds of shacks with tin roofs remain clustered together. I see teenagers in school uniforms walking in front of a sign which says "Hungary? Come Eat Meet." Underneath "Safe Abortions" signs rest an individual wasting away, most likely from HIV/AIDS...

Townships like Mamelodi and Soweto allow the naked eye to literally see humanity in a manner which can usually only be integrated and processed by the soul. The past and present and even the window to the future captivates and demonstrates the harm that comes from hate, greed and division as well as the progress inevitable with unity, determination, awareness and hope. It is all there, all the history, all the life and it is hard to miss.

What is it about SA?

So yesterday was the first day of February, which for some reason hit me with tremendous and unexpected force. Like a metric ton of bricks. Suddenly I realized I have a little more than three months left in South Africa. So I spent the day somewhere between anxiety of what will come, trying desperately to form pictures in my mind about what my return to the United States will look like for me, and nostalgia of where I have been, recapping my prior 6 months in South Africa, from the moments which struck me to the general everyday adaptations which have become my life.

I honestly don't know how I feel about being here or how I feel about leaving. I recently had a conversation with a friend after I had my surgery, while my cat was sick in the US and I was waiting through the events of mom's accident and subsequent orthopedic surgery. Keep in mind, its been a tough year and I'd come back from holiday ready to make amends with South Africa and start anew. Almost as soon as I got there, I started feeling those pains in my abdomen. Since then, the efforts to "catch up" and "readjust" after that surgery have been a reminder of the constant obstacles which face me in SA. SA might not get the blame for knocking me off my feet for my surgery, but it did kick me in the face while I was down. Still kicking, though at least I'm back up and can fight back a little. Anyway the conversation went like this:

Andrea: I hate to say it and I've been denying it for months, but I honestly think I might hate this country.

Friend: I don't blame you.

Andrea: I mean, its unbearable: the incessant fear necessary to survive, the unavoidable anger and hate circulating in the air, the false impression of modernness always leading to even greater inefficiency. Its maddening!

Friend: Ha! You sound like a local!

Andrea: Maybe. But the worst part is that I can see all that and say all that but, for reasons beyond comprehension, I do not want to leave. I can't leave.

Friend: Now...(insert a slowly upturning, knowing grin)Now, you sound like a South African!!

As far as I can tell, its true. I rarely meet a South African who isn't, to some degree, critical about the shortcomings of the country and cynical about whether they will get through it. Cited in these ranting are: poverty, AIDS/TB, the unevenly distributed provision of health care, ancient and oppressive views of gender/sex, crime, materialism, corruption, homophobia, lack of service delivery, poor education, poorly educated people, traffic, and so on. Sometimes these opinions manifest as racist ravings which lack reflection or, really, intelligence. Sometimes they are sarcastic jokes with just enough truth to make you laugh and cringe simultaneously. Sometimes it is an apologetic voice that comes through, not out of guilt or embarrassment, just despair. Sometimes it is a mere statement of fact. My mentor once corrected me: "You aren't cursed. You are just experiencing South Africa and learning to live in it the way we all do."

Yet I have only met one person who honestly and truly is looking for a way out. (This particular person is a gay, black man who has had the privilege of spending time in New York. When I blog about homophobia in SA, the fact that he wants to leave will need little explanation.) By far, most people I've met can't think of leaving or at least staying away. This remains a mystery to me.

It isn't a blind pride like we tend to find in the patriots of the USA. South Africans are very much aware of and affected by the turmoil and despair which surrounds them and often express doubt of it improving, even as they feed me the line about SA being a "young country" which needs time to "get better." And it isn't stubbornness either, I don't think. Some of my friends are well traveled and have even lived abroad and enjoyed the first-world comforts (safety, efficiency, predictability) of Britain or the US. But in the end, they genuinely want to be in SA whether or not they can explain it. And no one has even tried the justification that there is enough good to make up for the bad. They laughingly will list the amazing things about the country (the beaches, the friendliness, Cape Town, culture, richness) but no one would even think it was worth bringing out the scale to see how it levels out.



So what is it about this place? Whatever it is, its got me.

Steve Martin, did I forget something?

(Warning: This blog bears no connection to South Africa, except for that I had this dream here in my dorm room. I wrote it in an email to someone and, since it was written, couldn't help post it for your entertainment.)

Last night i had a dream, that I was doctoring in the hospital. I had on my white coat (which is not a long one, it goes to my hips) but i'd forgotten to wear clothes under it. So I was just trying to make do and hoping no one noticed, because there wasn't much else I could do because I had to see patients. One of my patients was Steve Martin. Apparently (dream knowledge) I'd been taking care of him for a while and he was IN LOVE with me. At the point of arrival in my dream, I was accustomed to his professions of adoration and attempts to hold me captive each time I saw him. This time was no exception and he grabbed my hand from his place in his bed and said something like, "Let's not torture ourselves anymore. You know your 'yes' is the only medicine for me." I gave a professional (and dream-familiar) response, "Steve Martin, I am your doctor. You know that is all I will be to you. This is inappropriate." Then he apologized tearfully, which made me feel bad because, let's admit, Steve Martin is a good guy and fairly attractive for his age! But I remained in doctor-mode and carried on checking the rate at which his fluids were running and going over his at his vital signs chart. Then, I took off my white coat to do an exam and looked down, only then to remember I'd forgotten to wear clothes! And I thought to myself "DAMN! Now Steve Martin is really going to get the wrong idea!!" And he did.

So the dream moves into like a movie-script-like sequence (specifically a made-for-T.V., Daddy-issues, Lifetime movie.) He tried to kiss me or something and I jumped back and fumbled to put my coat on. I asked Steve Martin not to tell anyone what happened, which gave him the impression that something HAD happened. So as I was avoiding his groping hand and buttoning up my white coat and explaining that I'd merely forgotten to put on clothes that morning, his family, including (who in my dream I knew to be) his ex-wife and daughter come in. They were furious. Not so much with me, because they liked me and knew he'd been making advances on me. But with him because they were already semi-estranged from him because he was a jerk (heh. good movie.) I chased them down the hallway (tugging at the bottom of my white coat) as they stormed away because I needed to speak with them in that family-doctor circle they have in movies to explain medical stuff. As they stood there tight lipped and said they didn't care about his diagnosis, I broke into tears and went on a rampage about how good of a person Steve Martin was, despite his mistakes (and his weird propensity to try to win me over with origami and hot tamales) and how he never stopped talking about how proud he was of his daughter and how much he loved her and how he'd disappointed his ex-wife, who deserved better. I told them they were lucky to have a man like that in their lives and how I wished Steve Martin were my father (which I admitted to them was weird since he was always trying to take my clothes off and pull me into his hospital bed) but how they shouldn't be so hostile about his shortcomings. The daughter and ex-wife also broke into tears and we all hugged and they thanked me and apologized and we cried and cried...

All the while I have no pants on.

To continue on the ever-popular topic...

Its amazing how often it comes up. In fact, you can't really get through a conversation without someone mentioning crime. For example, the following have all been personal moments of complete normalcy which have occurred in the last week:

1. Driving in the car with a friend, I remind her, "Put your purse under the chair" so she doesn't fall victim to the familiar "smash and grab" tactic where someone breaks the car window and reaches in either to grab your hair/face/etc or just the bag if possible. This is so familiar that you stay alert at all times when driving, knowing exactly where are the beggars and sellers who surround your car at robots (stoplights) and keep your car in first gear to pull away if necessary.

2. Deciding I can't stay at a friends house for the night since the car is parked outside. Andrea: "Do you think my car will get stolen?" Friend: "Hopefully not." An unsatisfactory answer when I was fishing for, "No. I don't think so." (In the US, I'd only settle for "Preposterous! Why would you worry about that?!?") At which point, I decide it isn't worth the risk despite extreme fatigue and the chance for a delicious breakfast. Note: This thought also occurs on a regular basis where ever the car is parked: at the movies, in a shopping mall, out for dinner, and so on.

4. Going to the movies, a friend left the cinema to go get sweets (candy) before the movie started. The lights went down while he was gone, but he never came back to his spot. Given that the cinema was quite dark, in the States I'd assume he couldn't find us, had sat somewhere else, turned his phone off for the movie and I'd find him after the movie without giving it another thought. But TIA. So we got nervous that he'd disappeared so we went searching: Up and down the aisles of the cinema, around the mall, in the boys and girls bathroom, even call in back-ups to help us look... My heart was racing. I was sure he'd been kidnapped and mugged and who knows what else. I missed the most of the movie and was exhausted with worry by the time he finally emerged from the pitch-black cinema wondering why I was walking down the aisle.

4. Insisting to my friend, recently arrived from Canada, that she can't walk the 2 blocks home at 10 p.m. because it is unsafe. The group of South Africans I was with agreed wholeheartedly and barricaded her route out of the house. I drove her home and agreed with her as she decided outloud, "This is going to get real old, real fast."

These experiences were all in the last week! Scattered in between were even more discussions of related topics such as (but not limited to): corrupt cops, non-observance of traffic laws, a missing CT scanner from the hospital, the reality of revenge/hate rape even on campus and the fact that Johannesburg is a more dangerous place to live than most countries currently engaged in war (such as the DRC.) You get the picture. Crime is a way of life here and, as a result, fear becomes the way of life for the rest of us.

But let's not be so dreary. After all, it is reality and there isn't a damn thing you can do about it. . Which bring me to experience #5:

5. Going to a "We got robbed but they didn't take the stereo so the party is still on" party. And, yes, they really did get robbed. Its a German and an American couple who live in a decent (American embassy provided) home of which the entrances all take more 3 locked and guarded gates/doors. So they are fairly certain it was someone who was familiar with the house (they'd had a plumber there, a furniture delivery, etc.) and now have taken to leading things like deliveries through a maze of doors to the back to reveal the least amount of the house's interior as possible... doing so out of a level of distrust for which they feel guilty. However, despite all this, their persistent sense of humor about the situation provide solid evidence that they've been in SA long enough to adapt and survive the only way we know how. To laugh... and to hold a clever thieves and incompetent cops party to make that easier. I did my part by going as the McDonalds Hamburglar (I, too, really needed the laugh!!)


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Note to certain friends at home: If I could have found one, I'd have worn a B&W stripped sweat suit like the real Hamburglar. My excuse is limited timed and costume resources and even very few clothes here in SA. I remain loyal to our success as Awesome Ninjas who could rip the face off of those Sexy Ninjas any day!